The way I worded it in 2017: "It is both a time to remember "oh ya! we did that THIS year?", and also a means to inspire ourselves to do more of the things we like, and better, and not become complacent. It also, in some years like this one, is a reminder of how short life can be and a chance to honour the passing of important people or institutions."
2020 Overview
The rest of the year was like a roller-coaster as it was for everyone else and we lost more family and friends as we tried to just get through the year injecting as much local adventure in where we could and keeping our own stress levels in check. We really needed to change our patterns but it was a very anti-social year, and in many ways we achieved new levels of inactivity and boredom. Trump will not be talked about in the sections below btw. So here goes.
My select chronological set of cell phone pics from the year.
Friends and Family
In early January, my aunt Jean passed away (my mother's sister). This was early enough that a proper service was held which I'm very thankful for (especially for my uncle Lorne and my cousins). She was a very nice woman, and someone I only have fond memories of, many through the words of my own mom.
Shortly after that, a junior co-worker of mine from a previous job of mine decided to take his own life. This was someone I bonded with during my time at that job and thought about often afterwards (before and after he died). I still don't quite know why, but of the many deaths I'll associate with 2020, this one may have hit me hardest. His death occurred right as the fear and confusion around COVID started kicking in. A celebration of life would have happened if just a week or so earlier but never did occur. This was just the first of many such events that never happened this year for our family and I feel really complicates closure.
In March, Laura's father (Dick Langs) passed away unexpectedly. The effects of not being able to be with her mother or have a formal event are still unfolding. During one of the low alert periods we did drive to Nelson and joined the bubble of her sister's family but we were all so desperate to just enjoy that, we didn't unpack Dick's passing much and perhaps that was the right thing at that time.
Laura's father was someone I did not get to know as much as I would have liked, but I feel fortunate to have had as a father-in-law. I never felt judged by this super kind man (which seems like a thing that happens to other men). I feel there were common interests that we never got to discuss due to limited time. There is a lesson in there somewhere. An eye-opener for me was how strong my wife is as I watched her cope with the waves of emotions. Her journey with this is not over but I am amazed at the grace with which she handles it and am pleased she now "Zooms" with her mom almost daily which is a positive new thing that came of all of this. My wife never met my mother, so it not wasted on me that the few meetings I had with her dad are precious.
My aunt Liesbeth (my dad's sister) passed away in May. She had health challenges but it still was a rapid chain of events from what I understand. She also was a gentle soul and being younger than my dad, added to a bit of selfish anxiety for me regarding him. Being in Ontario and someone that didn't travel much, we didn't know her well, but she always felt like family as soon as we were in the same room. I don't know how my dad is dealing with it but I should probably ask. The thing is just that these days we always try to share positives to keep each other buoyant and it just feels weird to bring it up.
Although it was kind of spotty, we did manage to get out for some trips with friends to the mountains or an alfresco meal between lockdowns, but it was just way too little and I miss this social pillar of our lives.
Travel
We could not have timed our "biggest international" trip better. COVID was being talked about when we were in Vegas, but not before. We sort of categorize trips as either big ones (Europe, Asia etc.) or small ones which would even include Hawaii maybe and certainly week long max US city trips like Chicago,.. or maybe a longer BC roadtrips. Las Vegas turned out to not just be our biggest trip of the year,.. but it behaved like one.
- The Strip highlights: Neon museum, Fat Elvis
- Death Valley National Park
- Mojave Nation Preserve
- Zion National Park
- Valley of Fire
- Beatles Cirque du Soleil
- A random brunch with Laura's friend Rob!
Even a basic car camping trip seemed like a precious treat, especially with the hoards flooding into the areas that WE tend to frequent historically in the summer (and the weird restrictions and booking systems that came along with COVID). Here is where we managed to get to:
- Lac le Jeune - car camping
- Manning Park - car camping and hiking
- Whistler - with our friends Peter and Olivia when restrictions relaxed (with WAY too many other peple up there that simply did not give a shit)
- Gibsons - just checking it out and keeping to ourselves
- Nelson - to visit family and I did a longish rail trail ride (my only bike trip of the year!)
We only fit in one standalone backpacking trip (with Brenda, Andy, and Maria) and I'd say that was a situation of quality over quantity. No bike trips,... which are often my faves so if there is a way in 2021 to safely do that,.. that will be a priority.
Day Trips
Without commuting to work as much we needed exercise so reasoned out that if we were working from home (and the same place) we can get on the road faster AFTER work (we also dramatically increased daily walking from and around our place).
This year we did far less of the 5+ hour hikes that usually shape our year and more of the short and local hikes including SFU based ones and some easy access North Shore hikes. It was fun to re-aquaint ourselves with those and safer since we could not go in bigger numbers with people outside of our bubble. We did tons, (like 2 a week at one point).
Work
Like many companies this year, employment related government subsidies were well used by our management team (aka my manager) and thankfully my role was not impacted as a result. The slowness of the world however was reflected in the type and content of work we got up to. I volunteered to take a temporary 4 day work week at the tail end of the year. It just made sense and something I wanted to explore and understand about myself for down the road in life.
Our Extended World
I had been getting more involved and interested in "urbanism" for lack of a better word so some of the changes to the city like pop-up-plazas, improvements in Stanley park for recreation, and opening up outdoor patios for restaurants were a welcome diversion and of great interest to me. I've always felt that the city was not doing enough for people outside of their cars and hope some productive lessons have been learned and will lead to permanent changes. I love street closures and more thoughtful use of public space.
The one project I was deeply following, blogging about, and attending engagement events for was the Granville Street Bridge improvement plan. IMO, the opportunity is massive and it is the single most obvious impediment in fluid transportation across the city. In January of 2020 the unquestionable "best" option of several was chosen from the design choices. 2 months later, they had to de-scope it due to city budgets into phases (the second of which may never happen) and, to me, defeated the entire purpose of the key feature... removing gradient for unpowered vehicles (wheelchairs, pedestrians, bikes). I'm still disappointed and feel this is short-sighted! I think critics will have more legit ammo to knock the costs if it remains a half measure and we might see less positive sway for travel choices as a result.
We bought more of our food from ethical sources such as Fisher Otto and a Sunnyside Farm CSA subscription. We also incorporated food shopping into our daily routine which allowed making more smaller trips by foot, and closer by, and leaving the car at home.
I can say we have gotten more into the concept of re-use and repair but that seems still like a tiny dent in the seemingly massive amount of garbage and recycling we seem to generate. The Soap Dispensary etc. is something we like to support but seems to have such a narrow scope and impact given our needs. This needs more work in 2021 especially as I learn just how misleading current recycling systems in our area may be.
I was trying to reign in spending in general this year but not sure yet how that has gone as I did buy some big items that hopefully make 2021 less one of spending.
Health
I gained weight, got further out of shape, and do not feel great. Though I don't know how it happened, we started to dabble in far less meat consumption. We are not vegans, or even vegetarians, but in 2019,.. we were major carnivores. Honestly, I do not feel any health benefits, in fact kind of the opposite, but I do think it is balancing out our diet better for variety, moderation, and the environment. This year we did do way better on a goal we never pull off and that is expanding our repertoire of recipes. Our food planning and cooking has made a move in the right direction.
I feel generally that this year wore on people mentally more than they are acknowledging (and statistical markers all show this). I've observed that others are not as sensitive to this as I feel they should be and some, completely unaware that people around them are struggling as much as they are. It doesn't seem as if they don't care, but they are failing to see it. I felt like I was doing fine up to a point but have to admit, I feel pretty fragile and listless so do hope for a better next year though I'm not expecting the flip of a calendar to trigger any meaningful movement in the root cause of all of this (even with a potential pandemic vaccine on the way for end of 2021).
2021
My goals this year will be a bit fortune-cookie-ish:
- Keep flexible - roll with it, expect nothing but seize opportunity to mix things up
- Stay healthy - every year I fail to really get in shape but I need to address a few issues including this golf ball in my shoulder. I must turn around my exercise lethargy, especially for my joints.
- Communication - with friends and family far more frequently. We are getting isolated. Games nights, etc.
- Keep the following trends on the DOWNWARD trajectory:
- driving (and fuel consumption)
- spending on non-essential or non-experiential things
- animal based product consumption
- Keep the following on the UPWARD trajectory:
- Batch cooking.
- Alfresco dining (and having the supplies with us).
- Daily walks.
- Bike trips before all else (when safe and acceptable)
- Understanding CoV waste processes and improve our impact